Issues become increasingly troublesome when there is no conspicuous arrangement and techniques that you have attempted in the past don’t work. These sorts of issues cause a lot of pressure and uneasiness and require new and various techniques.
The Steps to Solving Daily Life Problems
Stage 1: IS THERE A PROBLEM?
As an initial step, it is critical to understand that there is an issue. Since issues can cause tension, numerous individuals will attempt to stay away from, overlook or dawdle when managing troublesome issues in their lives.
Shockingly, keeping away from your issues as a rule makes them return, and a little issue can turn into a major issue after some time. All in all, how might you perceive an issue from the get-go?
Make a rundown. Start working out a rundown of the issues throughout your life. It is simpler to chip away at an issue on the off chance that you have recorded it. This methodology will likewise assist you with seeing how certain issues appear to come up over and over.
Utilize your sentiments. We frequently wrongly think our negative feelings are the issue. This is bogus. For instance, you may think, “the issue is that I am constantly worried busy working.” Where as it is progressively exact to state there is an issue grinding away, (for example, challenges with associates or an immense outstanding task at hand), which is causing you to feel pushed. Utilize your negative feelings to direct you: when you are feeling on edge, focused, baffled, or irritated in a specific circumstance, attempt to discover the issue that is causing you to feel that way.
Discover the test. A gigantic impediment for a great many people is the antagonistic way that they take a gander at issues: on the off chance that you believe that issues are totally undermining, or that having them is an indication of shortcoming or disappointment, and you consider yourself to be an awful issue solver, you won’t tackle the issue! That is, regardless of whether you are acceptable at taking care of issues, you won’t attempt to manage them on the off chance that you don’t figure you can and you don’t perceive any advantage to it.
In the event that you can discover some advantage or opportunity in an issue, you are bound to deal with it. For instance, if your concern isn’t coexisting with associates, the open door may be that it is an opportunity to improve your relational abilities and conceivably resolve a few contentions with your collaborators.
Stage 2: WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?
Prior to attempting to take care of an issue, you first need to characterize it. Here are a few hints on the best way to appropriately characterize what your concern is:
Concentrate on the issue itself. Ask yourself the accompanying inquiries:
What is the circumstance? (for example my manager gives me an excessive amount of work)
What might I like the circumstance to be? (for example I might want my manager to give me less work)
What is the deterrent that is keeping me from my ideal circumstance? (for example I’m uncertain how to converse with my supervisor about my work commitments)
You would then be able to place your concern into a sentence. For instance, the issue is that my supervisor gives me a lot of work; I might want to have less work, yet I don’t know how to request that he decrease my remaining burden.
Simply the realities: Be mindful so as to abstain from placing feelings or presumptions into your definition. For instance, imagining that your work issue is that “my supervisor is a snap” is a sentiment. Moreover, it makes the issue practically difficult to understand.
Be explicit and concrete: If you are too obscure when characterizing your concern, it will be hard to tell how to try and start understanding it. For instance, believing that, “my concern is my work” isn’t explicit or solid; what is it about your work that is an issue? By what means will you even beginning fixing this sort of issue?
Stage 3: WHAT ARE MY GOALS FOR THIS PROBLEM?
So as to know whether you have tackled your issues, it is essential to know early what a tackled issue would resemble. Here are a few hints for defining objectives:
Be sensible: Make sure that your objectives are feasible; on the off chance that they are unreasonable, you will most likely not contact them and you will feel gravely. For instance, with the work issue, if you will probably possibly accomplish your work when you feel like it, you will probably not take care of your concern.
Be explicit: If your objectives are obscure, you won’t know when you have contacted them. For instance, in the event that you think, “I will likely be glad busy working”, I don’t get that’s meaning? Would you like to be cheerful constantly? How glad? When will you know when you have reached your “glad” objective?
Start with momentary objectives: If you set objectives that can be reached generally rapidly, you are bound to deal with your concern. You can set long haul objectives as well, however make a point to have short-terms objectives also so you know whether the issue is illuminated. With the work issue, a long haul objective may be to land another position while a momentary objective may be to diminish your remaining burden.
Stage 4: THINKING UP SOLUTIONS
The greatest misstep that we will in general make when discovering answers for our issues is to consider the regular old arrangements. In any case, if those old arrangements worked, the issue would not still be near. So as to think of new arrangements, you can adhere to the standards of conceptualizing:
Devise bunches of arrangements: You are bound to think of a decent arrangement on the off chance that you have a great deal of answers for look over. Attempt to concoct at any rate 10 potential answers for your concern.
Try not to pass judgment on your answers: Remember that you aren’t picking an answer yet, you are simply attempting to consider the same number of alternatives as you can; so don’t pass judgment on them. Indeed, even senseless, odd or extraordinary arrangements are acceptable ones at this stage. For the work issue, you may consider arrangements like “quit my place of employment” or “compose a strike”. Record them! You will never concoct new arrangements in the event that you aren’t happy to try and consider senseless ones.
Have an assortment of arrangements: Make sure that your answers are unique in relation to one another. For instance, with the work issue, there isn’t a lot of assortment if your answers are to “request that the supervisor eat with me”, “request that the manager have espresso with me”, or “request that the manager come out to supper”. In spite of the fact that these are 3 arrangements, they are essentially no different arrangement: request that the manager accomplish something social with you.
Some different tips for brainstorming bunches of various arrangements are:
Be explicit: Make sure that your answers include explicit practices, and not general techniques. For instance, the arrangement, “give the manager a rundown of all the work I am doing now” is quite certain, contrasted with the arrangement, “be increasingly confident with my chief”. On the off chance that you picked the last arrangement, you would have another issue — making sense of how to be increasingly self-assured.
Request help: If you are making some hard memories thinking of new and various answers for your concern, ask companions, family or colleagues for exhortation. Others may have thoughts that you have not thought of.
Stage 5: DECIDING ON A SOLUTION
In the event that you battle with tension, really picking an answer for your concern can regularly appear to be very troublesome. Notwithstanding, it is critical to recollect that not tackling an issue can prompt more uneasiness than attempting to unravel it, regardless of how on edge you feel. Coming up next are a few rules that can assist you with finding the best answer for your concern.
Will this arrangement fix my concern and assist me with arriving at my objectives? This rule may appear glaringly evident, in any case, it is imperative to ensure that your answer will assist you with arriving at your objectives. For instance, “work more enthusiastically” as an answer for the work issue won’t assist you with arriving at your objective of having less work to do in a day.
What amount of time and exertion does this arrangement include? You can expect that any arrangement will require some time and exertion yet the sum included should be identified with your necessities. “Leaving my place of employment” as an answer for the work issue may include a lot of exertion, since you would need to begin searching for a new position.
In what capacity will I feel in the event that I pick this arrangement? On the off chance that you imagine that an answer will cause you to feel terrible, liable or excessively on edge, it probably won’t be the best arrangement. For instance, “lie to the supervisor about how much work I really did” might cause you to feel awful.
What are the expenses and advantages of this answer for myself as well as other people, at the present time and in the long haul? The best arrangement will have the most advantages and the least costs conceivable. In any case, when pondering expenses and advantages you need to consider how an answer will influence:
You at the present time and later on
Others in your life at this moment and later on
For instance, on the off chance that you picked the arrangement, “reprimand my associates for work that isn’t done”, this may tackle your concern at the present time, yet it will most likely truly influence your relationship with your colleagues, and over the long haul your supervisor will presumably discover. The expenses of this arrangement appear to exceed the advantages.
Stage 6: CARRYING OUT THE SOLUTION
This is frequently the most troublesome advance since you presently need to really begin completing the arrangement you picked. A great many people are worried about the possibility that that they may have picked an inappropriate arrangement, or that maybe there is a superior arrangement on the off chance that they simply consider the issue more. This isn’t useful reasoning: it is smarter to act than to do nothing by any stretch of the imagination.
To assist you with doing your answer, you can make an activity arrangement. In the event that you know how you are going to complete your answer, you are bound to finish.
Your arrangement ought to incorporate all the means that you should take to complete the arrangement, and it ought to be as explicit and concrete as could be expected under the circumstances. For instance, if my answer is to “find another line of work”, a portion of the means engaged with that arrangement may be:
Make a rundown of the kinds of employments I might want to have
Purchase a paper each day and check the “help needed” advertisements
Contact all the businesses who publicize a vocation that I might want to have
Rework my work routine so I can go to interviews, if vital
In the event that you work through these means, you may find that you turned out badly some place, and afterward you can fix it and attempt once more.